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PostSubject: Ruimte Creëren voor een ander   Fri Oct 14, 2016 1:41 pm

Ik weet niet zeker of dat nou helemaal goed vertaald is, het heet "Holding Space" voor iemand anders.
Maar wat een prachtartikel! Ik post hier een stuk, het inleidende stukje vind je als je het artikel leest op de URL (onder).


What does it mean to “hold space” for someone else?

It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.

Sometimes we find ourselves holding space for people while they hold space for others. In our situation, for example, Ann was holding space for us while we held space for Mom. Though I know nothing about her support system, I suspect that there are others holding space for Ann as she does this challenging and meaningful work. It’s virtually impossible to be a strong space holder unless we have others who will hold space for us. Even the strongest leaders, coaches, nurses, etc., need to know that there are some people with whom they can be vulnerable and weak without fear of being judged.

In my own roles as teacher, facilitator, coach, mother, wife, and friend, etc., I do my best to hold space for other people in the same way that Ann modeled it for me and my siblings. It’s not always easy, because I have a very human tendency to want to fix people, give them advice, or judge them for not being further along the path than they are, but I keep trying because I know that it’s important. At the same time, there are people in my life that I trust to hold space for me.

To truly support people in their own growth, transformation, grief, etc., we can’t do it by taking their power away (ie. trying to fix their problems), shaming them (ie. implying that they should know more than they do), or overwhelming them (ie. giving them more information than they’re ready for). We have to be prepared to step to the side so that they can make their own choices, offer them unconditional love and support, give gentle guidance when it’s needed, and make them feel safe even when they make mistakes.


8 Tips to Help You Hold Space for Others
Here are the lessons I’ve learned from Ann and others who have held space for me.

1. Give people permission to trust their own intuition and wisdom. When we were supporting Mom in her final days, we had no experience to rely on, and yet, intuitively, we knew what was needed. We knew how to carry her shrinking body to the washroom, we knew how to sit and sing hymns to her, and we knew how to love her. We even knew when it was time to inject the medication that would help ease her pain. In a very gentle way, Ann let us know that we didn’t need to do things according to some arbitrary health care protocol – we simply needed to trust our intuition and accumulated wisdom from the many years we’d loved Mom.

2. Give people only as much information as they can handle. Ann gave us some simple instructions and left us with a few handouts, but did not overwhelm us with far more than we could process in our tender time of grief. Too much information would have left us feeling incompetent and unworthy.

3. Don’t take their power away. When we take decision-making power out of people’s hands, we leave them feeling useless and incompetent. There may be some times when we need to step in and make hard decisions for other people (ie. when they’re dealing with an addiction and an intervention feels like the only thing that will save them), but in almost every other case, people need the autonomy to make their own choices (even our children). Ann knew that we needed to feel empowered in making decisions on our Mom’s behalf, and so she offered support but never tried to direct or control us.

4. Keep your own ego out of it. This is a big one. We all get caught in that trap now and then – when we begin to believe that someone else’s success is dependent on our intervention, or when we think that their failure reflects poorly on us, or when we’re convinced that whatever emotions they choose to unload on us are about us instead of them. It’s a trap I’ve occasionally found myself slipping into when I teach. I can become more concerned about my own success (Do the students like me? Do their marks reflect on my ability to teach? Etc.) than about the success of my students. But that doesn’t serve anyone – not even me. To truly support their growth, I need to keep my ego out of it and create the space where they have the opportunity to grow and learn.

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PostSubject: Re: Ruimte Creëren voor een ander   Fri Oct 14, 2016 2:03 pm


Dank je, het is inderdaad een heel mooi artikel. 11

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PostSubject: Re: Ruimte Creëren voor een ander   Fri Oct 14, 2016 2:22 pm

Ja, he! En veel is vrij logisch op zich, alleen doen we het ook? Je schiet zo makkelijk in oude routines.
Net wat die ze zegt in het artikel, dat het haar soms moeite kost, omdat ze zo graag wil helpen eigenlijk.
Of dat ze als docente soms 'last' heeft met haar ego omwille van dingen als "vinden ze me nog wel leuk?".
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PostSubject: Re: Ruimte Creëren voor een ander   Fri Oct 14, 2016 4:07 pm


Ja die onzekerheid komt altijd weer omhoog met dat soort dingen....maar goed wie word er nu opgevoed met een sterk zelfvertrouwen...jammer genoeg weinig.

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PostSubject: Re: Ruimte Creëren voor een ander   Fri Oct 14, 2016 5:35 pm

Ik heb een hulpverleenster gehad, die een zielzus van me is. en zij heeft me op die manier geholpen. en tjeetje wat mis ik iemand die me dat geeft.
Ondertussen geef ik het wel weer door aan veel anderen, want als iemand je dat ooit heeft gegeven is het niet alleen een cadeau voor jezelf, maar het spreid zich automatisch uit, als kringen in het water.
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PostSubject: Re: Ruimte Creëren voor een ander   Fri Oct 14, 2016 8:50 pm

Morgen ff lezen, klinkt interessant, ben nu alleen veel te moe om Engels te lezen.
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PostSubject: Re: Ruimte Creëren voor een ander   Fri Oct 14, 2016 9:34 pm

Het is inderdaad een prachtig artikel en ook iets om eens bij jezelf te raden te gaan en af te vragen hoe jezelf hiermee omgaat.

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